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What do you want to see in Armagetron soon? Any new feature ideas? Let's ponder these ground breaking ideas...
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Z-Man wrote: Of course, maybe you're just projecting. I don't know your kids and am not a doctor of any kind, so I can't rule that out. And that case, pushing her would make things worse. And if the doctors are already reasonably certain it's really Borderline, it probably is. Optimism!
She says she's trans, so no projecting here. I have talked to some of her doctors about the possibility that transitioning might "fix" her, and they've mostly rejected that idea. Of course, they're not gender specialists by any means....
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So, I've been watching Columbo, and there's something bothering me about this whole thing. Every bit of it.

My kid has been seen by a number of doctors, but she's never really had a regular doctor. She's had several different regular psychiatrists, and a couple of therapists, but they've always focused on their specialties. And I've been thinking about this whole "too many cooks in the kitchen" idea.

So I can't help but wonder.... All the doctors she's seen have credentials, they're all eminently qualified to practice. Likewise with the therapists. But we're at a point where the only solid continuity of care is me and my ex-wife (her mother, obviously). And she and I, we keep in touch. Anything I want to know about previous care, she'll tell me, I just have to ask. So I'd consider that a solid continuity of care.

So lately, I've been finding myself arguing with the doctors, disagreeing with their decisions. I have a decision on my plate right now that I've decided to disagree with the doctor (it's a medication consent, and I'm not consenting). I'm starting to feel like I have to become a damned psychiatrist M.D. to take care of my kid.

Why am I feeling like this? I'm sure there's lots of logical reasons for why I would feel like this, but after she's seen so many different doctors, why do I feel like I'm *now* the doctor?

Also, if y'all have any experience with Remeron or Klonopin, those are the drugs I'm researching right now. I could use any information anybody might have about them.

You know, because I'm not an M.D., and I need to know what the **** the doctor that's only known her for a week is telling me he wants to give her. (No, can't ask him, he'll tell me everything I need to know to agree with him, and nothing else)

Edit: I fixed my irc client and I'm back in the irc channel. In case anybody who's not there hadn't noticed. Especially ljrbot.
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I've been thinking a lot about this thread lately...
Maybe the long-term goal is to awaken your kid's curiousity in something she finds worth living for (science, art, literature, philosophy, religion, history, politics...)? Or even a more general curiousity about the world and all those things that keeps such feelings at bay for the rest of her life.

Concerning doctors, I wouldn't listen to my gut but rather inform myself as much as I could before making any decisions (and by informing I mean asking your local pharmacists etc.). There are good ones and terrible ones and some of them recommend stuff you don't want to do but that could actually help once you'd do them (especially when it's a question of quality of life vs mental/physical "stability"/"health").

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@Lucifer
Here in the UK we have pretty much the same drugs as you guys in the US but we tend to refer to them by their medical names (if that's the correct term) rather than their brand names. I'm guessing that we aren't the only country to do this therefore I recommend you mention medical names along with brand names when referring to drugs (hopefully that didn't come across as arsey).
Anyway, back to the drugs in question. I know nothing about Clonazepam (Klonopin). As for Mirtazapine (Remeron, amongst other names), I have two close friends taking it, both on the highest dose. I've also met other people that have been, or are, on it. The only side effect that anyone has mentioned to me is slight tiredness/sleepiness, however, of course, there is no guarantee that this is the same for everyone. I'm pretty sure that they take them at night due to this. As with many other antidepressants, it's generally best to start on a low dose and slowly work upwards over a period of months or even years as the body takes quite a long time to adapt to them. Also, and especially in the early stages, the drugs could actually have an initial, negative effect on the person taking them i.e. making them feel more depressed and suicidal, so it's very important to keep extra watch over them, if this happens, until it turns around. I was told this is normally for a couple of weeks but I'm sure it can vary a lot between different people. I hope this information has been of some help to you.
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Just a quick status update from me :)
We got a daughter in January! So there was no time for tron the last couple of months. I tried to teach her, but I think it's too early.
I am fetching the source right now and hope to see some of you on the grid soon again!

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Jip wrote:We got a daughter in January! So there was no time for tron the last couple of months. I tried to teach her, but I think it's too early.
If she ain't picking it up by now, it's hopeless.

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Congratulations Jip!

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Oh, that's a surprise! Congratulations!

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Oi, great news!

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Congrats Jip!
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Congrats Jippy :D

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Congratulations Jip

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Well, to be an asshole, I'm going to make my latest status update after Jip's great news, and thus rain shit all over the place. Sorry.

Anyway, my situation has changed quite a bit over the last few days. Without going into huge details (but I have some news even for those who are following the tale in irc), my mentally ill kid has run away from home. She's 4.5 months from her 18th birthday, and the law doesn't give me any options. Also, forcing a kid to stay here when they want to run away is an exercise in futility. There are also wider freedom/liberty/privacy concerns that come up, basically making me someone who has to let her go, even though I think it's a HUGE ******* MISTAKE.

For anybody worried about her, here's her status, and this will probably be the last time I discuss her status here, because she's on her own. She's at a friend's house, and they're helping her get into a transitional living arrangement with a shelter in a town an hour's drive north of here. Tonight, I handed over her medications (due to a history of trying to overdose on them, I had to withhold them until an adult claimed them, and then screen said adult to make sure they'd be properly locked up and kept away from her). She's got her two guitars, and whatever she could carry (her phone, some clothes, whatever else she took with her). Not bad, for a runaway. As I know it now, she'll be moving into this transitional living arrangement, they will require her to finish high school, and provide her a (relatively) safe place to stay. It's not residential treatment, but, quite honestly, it could be exactly what she needs, and if running away is what it took for her to be able to get it, then she made the right choice. It'll be a few years before we'll know, honestly. But she's safe, she's got a bed, a roof, and three squares, and it looks like she'll have that for the foreseeable future.

As to how this affects my participation here, it's hard to say. Word reminded me I had a book to finish, and I'm currently a little deadlocked with emotional fallout from all that's been going on the last week or so, but I need to hurry up and finish it and get it published. Then I'm free to find a job, and the way things are, I need an income. But at least the late nights watching for the kid are over, and my free time is finally a bit free, so, well, I don't know what's happening next. Never have known, really.

So, again, we'll see. Recent changes in my home offer numerous possibilities.

As to programming free time, I'm working on a python network game library. My kids and I want to make our own games, and we *always* want them to be multiplayer, usually networked, and there's like nothing out there that does what we want it. So we can either write new network code for every game, or I can spend some time writing general purpose code, and that's what I'm doing. When it comes to priorities, if I have to make the choice, I will, of course, choose to support my kids who want to develop video games. I'll try to guide them to Arma and see if they have something to offer, but other than that, I'm working on supporting them. The possibility exists that I will find myself unable to offer coding support for arma in the future due to these developments with my kids, and I'm ok with that. I'll continue to offer any other support I can.

On my immediate arma todo list:
* Work on the armathentication-based foundation for the official servers.
* Start an official server.
* Look further into code I have that may make running tournaments easier. We're talking at least finishing up any ideas I had to make it easy for other people to make the program useful (it's a python program I've got, check the Ladle 107 thread for more), and releasing it so they can start working with it.
* Look back into that same code in the last one and how to use it to support the official servers.

Hey, at least I finally have a solid arma todo list. :) It's been awhile since I had that.
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Good luck with everything.
Lucifer wrote:Word reminded me I had a book to finish, and I'm currently a little deadlocked with emotional fallout from all that's been going on the last week or so, but I need to hurry up and finish it and get it published
Don't worry too much about that.

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Word wrote:Good luck with everything.
Lucifer wrote:Word reminded me I had a book to finish, and I'm currently a little deadlocked with emotional fallout from all that's been going on the last week or so, but I need to hurry up and finish it and get it published
Don't worry too much about that.
I appreciate that, I really do. I have to do it, mostly because if I don't, then I have nothing. I have to do it, so that even if I get a job at a convenience store, my book will be out there (hopefully!) collecting fans, and I can promote it.

So, like I said, I appreciate that, and I'm going to work on it anyway. Hopefully soon. Still dealing with emotional fallout, etc. yadayadaydayada.
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